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also the wiki article is both surprisingly lengthy and still somewhat disappointing (the bit about almodovar and the wiki-ists emphasizing repeatedly it's not about bdsm but the emotional and social bonds of heterosexual romance we enter into willingly--entirely missing the point that for many kinksters that's precisely what they're playing with, too! alas). like. the subtle joke when he comes back and she's all "i can undo my ropes, don't worry about doing it" and the fact she can talk through the hole-y bandages, both the notion he's too distracted with his own wounds to notice the bonds aren't effective, just costume/prop, and the idea they both pretty much know that's what it is by then.

"Almodóvar has consistently denied that Tie Me Up! Tie Me Down!’s ropes have any links with sadomasochism.[8] There is no erotic charge to the ropes and gags....Ricky's stated ambition is to be a good husband to Marina and a good father to their children. Indeed, the relationship between Marina and Ricky is meant, ultimately, to be a parody of how such relationships work, as if heterosexuality (and its consequence, marriage) are almost inevitably equivalent in character to the infamous Stockholm syndrome.[6] The cords that tie us one to another become literal ropey metaphors in the film. It is a tale not of kinky sex, but of a sweeter human bondage, of loose ends tied into lover's knots."

i wonder if there are movies about a kind of reverse (that's not the right term though) or mutual osmosis kind of s. syndrome. which reminds me, to bring it back to, "but you can watch it through the lens of a young woman and...": i distinctly remember reading articles in teen magazines when i was 13 or 14 or whatever with apparently firsthand accounts from other teen women about being kidnapped and what to do to survive, things like "talk to your captor, remind him of your name and the details of your life, get him to see you're a person who can be liked/related to as such, so he won't want to hurt you" (for my sister the equivalent was lifetime tv movies).